Take Time For Yourself
When I hit 40, I decided I no longer wanted to be ‘“superwoman." Super Woman is the “perfect” woman; she’s better than a Stepford wife, she’s the woman who is all things to everyone in her life. She never says “no.”
Being a teenaged single mother, I moved into making ish happen (homework, kids’ sports games, PTA president, church functions, committees and so much more)—the superwoman syndrome. The pressure was real.
Once I took off my cape (boy was that thing heavy), I realized life was lighter when I made the decision to live out loud and stop trying to be everything to everybody. My focus was to become all that I could be for myself, with no limits. In addition to being a mother, sister, friend, partner, and entrepreneur, I empowered myself to wear as many hats as suited me and take off the ones that no longer served my goals and purpose.
I discovered that setting aside time for myself energized me and helped me renew my focus. This type of self-care will differ from person to person, but here are some of the things I do to recharge:
My Morning Pages
I like to write first thing in the morning to get out everything that’s on my mind. I end my morning pages with a positive thought (you will be amazed by how many negative thoughts go through your mind on a daily basis). I never realized how often I walked around with a resting bitch face because my cape was too heavy. Now, I’m conscious of my surroundings and facial expressions.
I’m an early riser, so I take full advantage of the calm, quiet time in the morning before I get my day started. Working a 9 to 5 and starting a 5 to 9 is demanding, and you can’t afford to drop the ball. Waking up and starting this way helps me set my intentions for the day, give thanks for the blessings in my life, and clear my mental and emotional space so I can take on whatever challenges the day will bring.
Annual Solo Trip
Every year, I take a four-day, 3-night solo trip. Some may think it’s sad to travel alone, but it’s mandatory for me. My must-do activity is to watch the sunrise on one day and the sunset on one day. I use this time to relax, grow, and decide what I want to personally accomplish.
How are you taking time for yourself? Leave a comment with your favorite tips!